Everything is normal now. Mark is back at work and Kayne started nursery (again) yesterday. So far it's good, but then it's only day 2 and everything is fun. I've asked for a meeting after they have done thier assesments of the kids. I just wanna be on top of everything, i do not want a repeat of Winchcombe. It stresses me to think that they have no idea what he can do and he could so easily slip under thier radar.
I have booked his pre-school booster - i'm not looking forward to that! Also an eye-test for him as he almost always refuses to sit on the sofa to watch t.v; prefering to stand right in front of it or sit on the floor closer to it.
We go on a short break on friday til monday and then on the 12th to the 16th. Then it's Kayne's birthday on the Monday! OMG he's gonna be 4.
Mark's foot is de-bandaged and he is allowed to walk on it in a fashion.
Tuesday, 29 April 2008
Saturday, 12 April 2008
All about Friday
What a fiasco! These past few days have been the most stressful i've had ...ever? Mark got a lift to the hospital at 6:10 am, Lani and Kayne got up at 6:30. I waited around, cleaned, sorted washing, fed children in a complete daze all morning. Marks parents arrived at 11:30. The seemed to be trying to convince me that we should go up straight away. Mark text at about 12:30 saying he should be going down to theatre soon. We left here at 2 got there around 3 - he wasn't back yet. So we waited an hour and went back up...he'd just got back.
He looked tired, very pale, with that wide-eyed/doped up look. I wanted to get on the bed and lay with him - can't do that incase of infection. So then we casually say to the nurse about taking him home - as thats teh reason we were there. She said 'oh no, you aren't going home tonight' and we were thinking hang-on he came in for 'day-surgery'!! There was never any mention of staying overnight, he had nothing with him, no change of clothes, underwear, toothbrush! I was so angry. We'd made his parents come off of holiday to pick him up and he wasn't even going to come home. Mark was really angry and then was crying because he felt they lied to him. Which in essence they did because they never mentioned once anything about an over-night stay. Not even in the infomation booklet,that they give you about what to bring etc, did it say anything like 'if your operation is in the afternoon, you may have to stay overnight' or anything along those lines.
Just shows how fucked up our health service is. Not even the surgeon doing it said anything about him staying, and then after was all like 'of course you wouldn't be going home', they treat you like a bunch of fucking idiots.
Anyway, i get to phone the hospital at 10 and then go to mums, then i'm going over to the hospital at about 2 ish i hope. Lani got me up at 6:30 this morning. We got in at 10:30 i was asleep by 11:15, Kayne is still asleep and its 9 (just woke up - its 9:15), the lastest he has EVER laid in.
Went to Leo's 21st party last night which i didn't think we'd be able to (the only good thing about Mark staying in). Was good fun, spoke to Sarah-Lee and Jilly about babies. Spoke to Scott a bit, he gave me a kiss, don't think he's does that since we were little. But he's been really worried about this lump (although it will be fine), A few hugs and i told him he'll be ok. Lani kept saying 'Hiya dada!, there you are!' to Jack (who has short hair like Marks), she'd walk over to him and then say 'oh' and sign finished and run away. You'd assume that they would forget over that period of time (24 hours) although he is her dad and she adores him. It was so sweet and i had to not cry as mum was fussing me! - As if she didn't have enough to do. I spent alot of time talking to Jamie. We talked about Bleach and computer games. I'm glad we have this common interest because it means that we can talk, also that Jamie has someone to talk to because there wasn't anyone for him at the party really - though he did play with Kayne (maybe because Kayne has no expectations of how Jamie should act).
He looked tired, very pale, with that wide-eyed/doped up look. I wanted to get on the bed and lay with him - can't do that incase of infection. So then we casually say to the nurse about taking him home - as thats teh reason we were there. She said 'oh no, you aren't going home tonight' and we were thinking hang-on he came in for 'day-surgery'!! There was never any mention of staying overnight, he had nothing with him, no change of clothes, underwear, toothbrush! I was so angry. We'd made his parents come off of holiday to pick him up and he wasn't even going to come home. Mark was really angry and then was crying because he felt they lied to him. Which in essence they did because they never mentioned once anything about an over-night stay. Not even in the infomation booklet,that they give you about what to bring etc, did it say anything like 'if your operation is in the afternoon, you may have to stay overnight' or anything along those lines.
Just shows how fucked up our health service is. Not even the surgeon doing it said anything about him staying, and then after was all like 'of course you wouldn't be going home', they treat you like a bunch of fucking idiots.
Anyway, i get to phone the hospital at 10 and then go to mums, then i'm going over to the hospital at about 2 ish i hope. Lani got me up at 6:30 this morning. We got in at 10:30 i was asleep by 11:15, Kayne is still asleep and its 9 (just woke up - its 9:15), the lastest he has EVER laid in.
Went to Leo's 21st party last night which i didn't think we'd be able to (the only good thing about Mark staying in). Was good fun, spoke to Sarah-Lee and Jilly about babies. Spoke to Scott a bit, he gave me a kiss, don't think he's does that since we were little. But he's been really worried about this lump (although it will be fine), A few hugs and i told him he'll be ok. Lani kept saying 'Hiya dada!, there you are!' to Jack (who has short hair like Marks), she'd walk over to him and then say 'oh' and sign finished and run away. You'd assume that they would forget over that period of time (24 hours) although he is her dad and she adores him. It was so sweet and i had to not cry as mum was fussing me! - As if she didn't have enough to do. I spent alot of time talking to Jamie. We talked about Bleach and computer games. I'm glad we have this common interest because it means that we can talk, also that Jamie has someone to talk to because there wasn't anyone for him at the party really - though he did play with Kayne (maybe because Kayne has no expectations of how Jamie should act).
Thursday, 3 April 2008
Up to April already...
Been up and down since my last post. We've all been ill. Lani is teething badly, i think it's 2 molars and atleast 2 front teeth, she has 11 now i think. Only 8 days till Mark's operation. Only 7 days till baby Amelie is 1.
I've been looking at some courses on OU. I need to exercise my brain and i need to find some things to do with Lani when Kayne is at nursery. I'm hoping to find a music type class we can go to. I'm leaving the group i've been going to for nearly 4 years. I feel i've just moved on from it. They can't help me any more. I've learnt to deal with my depression as and when it comes. I think i am able to minimise the 'down-time' it causes me. I think accepting that I may never get rid of it means that it only wades in when it is a big thing. Sorting out school issues has help clear my mind. I know i need to find things outside of my children.
I've been reading a lot about giftedness for nearly a year now. I was shocked to read that things that i do are consider traits of giftedness. But on the other hand not really, i know that things i can see and the connections i make, other people don't or can't. I always thought that that was just the differences between people. Mark can do 20 simple sums (+, - /, x) in 16 seconds (Brain Training). The one that really got me is that i can manipulate 3D objects in my minds eye - i thought everyone could do this, i guess it explains why i was good at product design in school.
Anyway on to a few pictures as i haven't put any on for ages;
The world looks better this way
I've been looking at some courses on OU. I need to exercise my brain and i need to find some things to do with Lani when Kayne is at nursery. I'm hoping to find a music type class we can go to. I'm leaving the group i've been going to for nearly 4 years. I feel i've just moved on from it. They can't help me any more. I've learnt to deal with my depression as and when it comes. I think i am able to minimise the 'down-time' it causes me. I think accepting that I may never get rid of it means that it only wades in when it is a big thing. Sorting out school issues has help clear my mind. I know i need to find things outside of my children.
I've been reading a lot about giftedness for nearly a year now. I was shocked to read that things that i do are consider traits of giftedness. But on the other hand not really, i know that things i can see and the connections i make, other people don't or can't. I always thought that that was just the differences between people. Mark can do 20 simple sums (+, - /, x) in 16 seconds (Brain Training). The one that really got me is that i can manipulate 3D objects in my minds eye - i thought everyone could do this, i guess it explains why i was good at product design in school.
Anyway on to a few pictures as i haven't put any on for ages;
The world looks better this way
I love you big brother
Whenever Kayne is laying on the floor Lani will come and lay on him. She snuggles him, and they lay together, It's so beautiful. You can just about see on Kayne's face that he's isn't 100% happy about this arrangement. He isn't always completely happy with being held and never really has been - it has to be on his terms. But the expression is more likely that they are nearly the same weight and she is squashing him!
Proper Lego! 
Not completely got the finger skill to fiddle with it properly but it's more fun than Duplo which he barely touches anymore. Only bad thing about this stuff is Lani likes to put it in her mouth so Kayne has to go out in the hallway to play with it.
Lani at 16 months!
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